Feeling the pain of

breakup or divorce?

Reinvent Yourself through Our Breakup and Divorce Recovery Program

Ascend and Transform

A beacon for souls grappling with life’s drastic personal shifts

Transitioning from the depths of despair to newfound strength, cultivating a vivid future with bolstered self-worth and refined capabilities

Heal through a Journey of Growth

Toxic relationships, breakups and divorce are not fun. We, Donna and Diane (Your Breakup Coaches) have been there. We know it's disorienting and heartbreaking to pull away from the life you knew. Wrenching apart hurts.

Perhaps you're suffering sleepless nights and exhausting days. Or sleeping too much and feeling depressed and depleted. Your mind and body may be wrestling with feelings of anger, anxiety, jealousy, revenge, shame, worthlessness, and/or emptiness. Or perhaps you're feeling some relief and freedom - even if it's tinged with sadness and distress over losing what might have been.

Feeling pain, sadness and disorientation is normal during and after a breakup. The truth is that time heals most wounds. With the right help and tools, you can even speed up the time for soothing and healing. Our blog, 7 Ways to Recreate Yourself after a Breakup or Divorce provides some help. But then what?

We invite you on a journey of self-discovery, healing and reinvention. Below, learn how our Program can help you heal from a breakup, separation, or divorce - and thrive as you move forward.

Breakup and Divorce Recovery

Program Modules




When relationships disintegrate, we experience deeper stress, worry, anxiety and fear of the future. This often leads to feelings of overwhelm and distress, sleepless nights and confusing days. Let’s change that, together, step by step, starting with this empowering introductory module focused on calm mindful awareness.


• Feel heard and understood in terms of what has happened, what you are feeling, and where you are at now.

• Grow calmer, as you learn to use our stress-lowering breathing exercises and tools for detaching from stress and negativity.

• Gain clarity on what type of goals and changes will help you enjoy more satisfaction and success ahead.


Develop Unshakeable Self-Worth


Failed relationships take a toll on our identity, leading us to question our own self-worth. This creates negativity, self-attacks, hopelessness, and lack of energy, purpose and direction. Chronic low self-worth makes it even worse. There is a better way! In this Module you will develop a sense of deep self-acceptance and breathe new life into the tapestry of you. It's time to uncover the unshakeable foundation of High Self-Worth.


• Build Unshakeable Self-Worth and new Liberating Beliefs that will lessen fear and worry.

• Enjoy more self-compassion, self-love, self-confidence and self-trust, while lowering anxiety.

• Feel more energetic and less hopeless.

• Start changing patterns with deeper self-regard for a better life and relationships ahead.


Transform Self-Defeating Patterns


Self-Defeating Patterns keep you from having the life and wonderful relationship(s) you want. It’s highly likely that repeating patterns, such as over-pleasing, negative self-talk, and self-attacks have led to your current distress. These patterns become so ingrained that they arise automatically - below the level of conscious awareness - and hold you back from creating your dream life and relationship.

Now that you have been strengthening self-worth, you are ready for the next step in your Journey! You will change patterns that set you up for failure in the past – and create a new and far more satisfying life and relationship story.


• Recognize and detach from Self-Defeating Patterns.

• Detach quickly and effectively from these Self-Defeating Patterns.
• Identify and transform the underlying patterns so you move you forward faster - with more inner power and confidence.


Inner Critic to Inner Coach


Connecting with and managing your Self-Talk by shifting your relationship with your Inner Voice will empower you to be the person you are set on becoming. Now that you're experiencing higher self-worth and less distress through your recent changes, the next step is learning to let go of shame, guilt, self-blame, and self-attacks. Exploring and countering the inner sources of negativity, self-doubt and self-attacks is empowering. Your inner voice will become supportive and helpful. And good feelings will follow.


  • Develop more confidence as you transform and shift the roles, inner voices, and behaviors of your Inner Judge and Obstacle Parts.

  • Empower your inner core so you no longer beat yourself up or feel hopeless.

  • Let go of shame, guilt and fear of failure, criticism or rejection as you empower yourself with strong new inner resources.


Evolve Your Vision, Values, and Mission for Your New Future


It’s not easy to get what you want when you don’t really know what that is or how to get it. This Module will change that! Gain clarity and focus as you explore hidden facets of you, and connect more deeply with your authentic self and desires.


  • Gain clarity about your evolving self-concept.

  • Identify your set of personal values and use them to create a vision for your positive future.

  • Become more intentional and act with purpose.

  • Refine your authentic personal and/or professional missions, which will act as beacons for your future direction.


Step Into Your Success


Imagine you are standing in your own power, influencing others and getting your needs met – faster and more effectively than ever. You’re almost there! We will help you plan your new future and support you in getting there step by step. Our extraordinary goal-getting process will help ensure that you break through to a new level of success without feeling confused or overwhelmed.


• Understand how to take action you never thought possible for results you never knew how to get!

• Confidently move forward with purpose to reach goals that you may not even have believed you deserved in the past.

• Gain the non-stop confidence you’ve needed as you enjoy extraordinary results, time and time again!


Own Your New Future


Getting to your positive, empowered future means recognizing your part in past feelings, life choices, decisions, and relationships – without beating yourself up. In this Module, we enhance your “response ability” for re-creating the life and future relationships you want, including your relationship with you.


• See and acknowledge that decisions you made in the past were based on who you were back then, and learn not to beat yourself up about them.

• Truly master the ability to shift out of old automatic habits of blame, shame, guilt and self-attacks – as you take more responsibility for your feelings, decisions, and actions.

• Feel more courageous, capable and confident about going for the future you want.


Prepare for the Extraordinary Relationship


With your new insight into past painful relationships, this Module will help you ensure that you do not repeat the relationship mistakes of the past. Even if you don’t want an Extraordinary Relationship with another, what you learn in this Module help you with the most important relationship in your life – the one with yourself! Prepare to operate with more love, compassion, empathy, and balance to get needs met in mutually satisfying Win/Win ways.


• Stop predicting relationship failure and prepare for success through greater awareness of what underlies Vicious Cycles in your past.

• Learn to recognize, detach from, avoid, and/or break Vicious Cycles.

• Gain clarity on how to cultivate the Extraordinary Relationship(s) you want.

• Feel supported as you receive personal insight and coaching to keep future relationships positive and need satisfying.


Win/Win Communication Skills 1


Much of relationship communication starts inside our minds in the form of self-talk, automatic thinking, beliefs and perceptions – whether true or false. Sometimes our false assumptions develop into deeper false beliefs and barriers in our relationships. In this Module, we will explore “all things communication” and help develop new abilities for communicating with compassion, confidence, and


• Develop 7 Extraordinary Communication Skills that will empower you to stop communicating in ways that sabotaged relationships.

• Master the art of Win/Win Communication to avoid conflicts, arguing or withdrawing, and/or feelings of hurt and betrayal.

• Sharpen your communication skills with key practices and exercises that support trust, understanding, and rapport to help you and your partner feel heard and validated.


Win/Win Communication Skills 2


There are many nuances to Win/Win communication, including deepening one's ability to deal with differences when communicating. This final Module will immerse you in experiential learning and practice exercises to uncover the hidden needs of crucial conversations. As a result, you will operate more powerfully and effectively in all areas of your life.


• Get needs met through artful, empathetic and respectful communication.

• Enhance your ability to ask for what you want and to influence others.

• Develop effective ways of validating others and giving feedback.

• Be able to negotiate differences and get the outcomes you want.

We provide compassionate, non-judgmental
support through breakups and divorce.

What would it take for you to go on a journey of growth? Do you want to live a life you love?

Would you like to move onto enjoyable relationships for the long term? If so, this Transformational Program will help you move into a life with more self-love, self-worth and self-confidence. We will help you create a safe and self-loving inner space. It will become the foundation for low-stress success in all your pursuits.

Are you ready to go on that journey? Are you willing to tackle negative feelings like anxiety, bitterness, jealousy and self-criticism? We will help you do just that on a journey of self-discovery. You will explore within and learn to change. You will let go of limiting beliefs, such as I am not lovable and I am not good enough. We will help you shift into self-loving Liberating Beliefs that lead to learning and success.

You will learn to maintain unshakeable self-worth and self-love, even when times are difficult. From your self-loving space, you will then feel the inner strength, resilience and confidence to go out into the world and tackle life’s challenges.

Join the thousands of Extraordinary Selves who live lives of self-love and self-respect. As you do, you will learn to maintain boundaries, go for your dreams and reach the success you may not yet believe you deserve.


Our Program is for you if you are:

  • A woman who recently underwent a significant relationship breakdown, such as a breakup, separation or divorce.

  • Seeking to regain emotional stability and resilience amid emotional turmoil.

  • Looking to clarify your authentic desires for a new future while building confidence and necessary skills.


Our Program is not for you if you are:

  • Not currently dealing with the aftermath of a breakup or divorce.

  • Not ready or unwilling to engage in self-discovery and personal growth.

  • Already confident in navigating your emotional recovery and future planning without guidance.

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